So much of our life is governed by how we think our actions, appearance and thoughts will be judged by others. While we are often conscious of this, and act appropriately by considering others and not stepping on toes, there is a potentially disastrous flip-side to this coin.
In our society, in which humility is such a valued trait, we are sometimes victims of our own desire to remain humble. We hold ourselves back slightly, whether it be from saying the things we might want to say or even pursuing the dreams we have. By thinking big, or merely having an opinion or a preferred style, we put ourselves out there for judgement. The bigger we think, the more attention we attract. For some, this is natural or even desired, but for many this attention could be unwanted and the source of much anxiety.
What we have to ask ourselves, in deciding what to throw out into the world, is simply how much we think we need to - how much what we are about to do could have a positive effect. Without consideration of the social fallout, we have to make an honest appraisal of the situation and not be afraid to go with our gut. In a day and age where we are encouraged day in and day out to 'follow a dream' and 'think big', we are also subtly discouraged from rocking the boat and shaking things up. In fact, following our dreams and changing society for the better will almost always entail opposition, and in some cases, ridicule. Mindful awareness of our own fears and memories of failure can help us recognize the moments in which we would normally back down and sink back into the crowd, thus making our impact on the world around us a simple choice: how much do you believe in what you feel? Opposing societal norms, which unfortunately include racism, sexism, cruel and callous behaviour, will always create tension
Strength and courage in all social circles, close and broad, are merely learned habits that can change. Standing up for yourself, your thoughts and your individuality is a lifelong battle. The alternative, however, of keeping it all inside for fear of others' opinions, makes no sense on any level and will only cause dissonance and personal anxiety. Be yourself!
Much love, Dean.
And if you see me saying or doing something odd, leave me be :)
In our society, in which humility is such a valued trait, we are sometimes victims of our own desire to remain humble. We hold ourselves back slightly, whether it be from saying the things we might want to say or even pursuing the dreams we have. By thinking big, or merely having an opinion or a preferred style, we put ourselves out there for judgement. The bigger we think, the more attention we attract. For some, this is natural or even desired, but for many this attention could be unwanted and the source of much anxiety.
What we have to ask ourselves, in deciding what to throw out into the world, is simply how much we think we need to - how much what we are about to do could have a positive effect. Without consideration of the social fallout, we have to make an honest appraisal of the situation and not be afraid to go with our gut. In a day and age where we are encouraged day in and day out to 'follow a dream' and 'think big', we are also subtly discouraged from rocking the boat and shaking things up. In fact, following our dreams and changing society for the better will almost always entail opposition, and in some cases, ridicule. Mindful awareness of our own fears and memories of failure can help us recognize the moments in which we would normally back down and sink back into the crowd, thus making our impact on the world around us a simple choice: how much do you believe in what you feel? Opposing societal norms, which unfortunately include racism, sexism, cruel and callous behaviour, will always create tension
Strength and courage in all social circles, close and broad, are merely learned habits that can change. Standing up for yourself, your thoughts and your individuality is a lifelong battle. The alternative, however, of keeping it all inside for fear of others' opinions, makes no sense on any level and will only cause dissonance and personal anxiety. Be yourself!
Much love, Dean.
And if you see me saying or doing something odd, leave me be :)
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you.
- Marriane Williamson
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